What's RIGHT with our kids? Part 1

I've been hearing a lot lately from parents whose children are not "fitting in" to (what we consider) the "norm" - they aren't studying, don't know what they want to do with their lives, are frustrated with their own direction or just feel lost. What can we, as parents/teachers/friends, do to continue to nurture their curiosity and learning when we are faced with what might look to us as some kind of "failure" either by us or the child or both?

When touching on this subject, I need to say that I am not an expert on child development or education. My focus is on the expression of spirit that shows up in these developing humans and how to support that spirit in these times of confusion and frustration. My information comes from observation and from meditations with spirit on how to be of service to my clients in this arena.

First, "normal" is relative. When looking at the expression of spirit, normal conforms only to the internal desire for expression of that particular individual. This is the soul's expression, not an expression that is imposed by a parent or society. When relating with our children "soul to soul" we find an equal in there with whom we can completely relate, love and accept. What gets in the way are our expectations about what we are supposed to see - hair, clothes, music, attitude, performance - all serve to detach and separate us. As adults in this equation, it is our role to realize this. What we can choose to separate from instead is the expectation for things to be different. We often see our children as a reflection of ourselves - an extension that makes us look good or bad in the public depending on how they choose to be. We need to be clear that this is OUR issue, not the child's and it is our role to work that out - not lean on them to change their essence to fit ours.

What do you see in your relationship where your rules about how they should be are taking you out of the experience of Loving your child(ren)? Where can you trust them and their spirit more to allow them to express and discover their true nature?

More on this idea of trusting the spirits in our children next time... we trust them so they can learn to trust themselves!

Sending you abundant blessings and infinite LOVE ~ * ~

Cheryl

Creating anew on this Magical, Blessed Day

Today - we have an unusual cosmic occurrence - a second lunar eclipse (independent of the usual solar eclipse) within a month of the last, which is also the day of the full moon AND the holiday Tu B'Av (the happiest, most love filled day of the year) - it is a day of magic and creation.

"Lunar eclipses energize us to shed old habits and let go of the past so that the doorways to the future can open. In the signs of Leo (the Sun) and Aquarius (the Moon) we are asked to shed our Leo pride and drama, our arrogant belief that we are the center of the universe, and turn our attention to the needs of the whole, to the group. Lunar eclipses are like super powerful Full Moons. The Sun, Moon and Earth all align on the same plane, and for a few hours, the Earth blocks the light of the Sun from reaching the Moon. The Earth cuts off solar consciousness from the reflective power of lunar unconscious. There is a pause, a held-breath, when we get to see what's there in our lives without indulging in our usual emotional complexes. Lunar eclipses clear things out of our lives, especially issues from the past. But if we let go of something, we need something to replace it. We need a new story." (Cathy Lynn Pagano)

In this space of releasing illusions, we are invited to replace disgarded roles and ideas with a new story from your soul - what are the gifts, talents, messages of spirit that you are here to live out? Beyond the tug of your ego, expectations of others, obligations and burdens - WHO IN THE WORLD ARE YOU?

For me, life is clearly presenting the opportunity of releasing the illusions of limitations - limitations of career, money, relationships and destinations. As I look at what life has already provided for me, I can see that all I've ever needed has been provided. In this new chapter, life is kicking it up - more than a notch! My audience is growing... clients are calling from all corners of the universe and I'm working with so many talented, open and generous individuals. Partnerships with other light workers are taking me to new places to help others reconnect with their hearts and spirits. My role in this life is as a broad reaching "dot connector" - expanding my connection with spirit and assisting others in their quest for MORE. Whenever we want more, more food, sex, money, love, work, time, control, freedom, our hearts are really craving more connection, more knowing ourselves and our role in this great alliance of growth. Where do you fit in this dance? (We ALL fit!) What does your heart call for you to do next? How is love at work through your hands and where do you envision it taking you?

What can you release today? And what will you create in that space? Keep present to the energy of compassion, love and openness... this is not about assessing yourself critically, but truly dancing in the vastness of what is possible in the energetic changes that are coming available to the world.

I send you blessings of

LoVe ~*~ HappiNess ~*~ your HeartS DesiRes ~*~ all kicked up a notch cuz I know you can handle it!

Quotes excerpted from an article by Cathy Lynn Pagano,

The Eclipses - A Triple Wallop! July and August, 2009

Some of this information is after the fact, but it is still useful for observing and responding to the changes many of us are facing this season. If you are feeling a 'shake up,' chances are you are aligning closer to your life purpose. Knowing this may not make the situation easier, but it affirms that even if we are uncomfortable, it is with clear purpose and prompts our soul's growth if we allow it. As always, you get to choose what you do with the events and your feelings about it - and I am available for readings if you have questions you'd like clarified.

The following comments are from Janet (Sparrow) Moon at www.SparrowMoon.com

July 7, July 21, and August 5, 2009

Eclipses bring changes, good and bad. Usually they come in pairs twice a year, but this summer we will have 3 eclipses: a lunar, a solar, and then another lunar.

Most of us find changes difficult, even if they are positive. With all the changes we have been dealing with over the past year due to the collapse in the economy, I'm not sure any of us will really want to deal with any more. Well... like it or not, change is coming. Do we want to sit around and cry, or do we want to accept the challenges and grow into richer and more spiritually healthy human beings? It's our choice.

The first two eclipses will be in Cancer and Capricorn, and the third will reflect between Leo and Aquarius. (I have good news for Leos and Aquarians; this will be your last set of eclipses. It will be another 8 years before they come back to your signs.)

The lunar eclipses will be penumbral eclipses, which means that just the edge of the earth's shadow will be crossing the moon. But, the solar eclipse on July 21 will be a total eclipse, so it will pack a strong wallop.

The first eclipse will be a lunar eclipse on July 7th at 5:38 AM EDT. If we were only dealing with the eclipse itself, we may find that the event would be less dramatic. But, there will be other stellar aspects happening over the days leading up to the eclipse, so get ready for drama. The eclipse will consist of the Sun in Cancer at an opposition to the Moon in Capricorn, and Saturn over in Virgo will be making a positive aspect between the two. Normally I would say that there could be some positive changes in business and at home if we've been working hard. But, Mars the ruler of energy and sex will be fighting with Neptune and Jupiter, and Venus, the goddess of love, will be upset with Pluto. There could be lots of fights, disputes, auto accidents, jealousy, and financial losses on top of the eclipse energy.

The second eclipse on July 21st (July 22nd Europe) at 10:35 PM EDT will be a total solar eclipse at 29 degrees Cancer. The 29th degree is a karmic point, and it can bring out the heroes. People born with their suns or rising signs at the 29th degree of any sign often like to rescue people. This time, not only do we have a powerful eclipse at a karmic degree, it's also going to be aspecting Uranus and Pluto. And, we have other planets doing their things at the same time. There is a good chance that relationships will breakup and investments will show major losses around this time. But, there is also a chance that some will "take the bull by the horns" and initiate major changes in their lives. Some of those changes will be absolutely brilliant, but some will be dealing with major losses. It's not unusual that people who are ill and tired often pass over during eclipses, but this eclipse may bring even more deaths... and some not anticipated.

The third eclipse will be the final eclipse in Leo and Aquarius on August 5th. It will be at 8:39 PM EDT, and it will be visible from about the eastern 2/3 of the US. I would call it more of a normal eclipse, since it won't be aspecting any other planets. And the other planets of the zodiac will not be at war with one another. It's still going to be an eclipse, and there will be changes to deal with. But, after the previous 2 eclipses, this eclipse may feel more like an aftershock. And, if you want to do something different, with Leo and Aquarius involved, throw an eclipse party!

About the Author: Janet (Sparrow) Moon www.SparrowMoon.com